The Seven
Spiritual Laws of
Divorce It
is important to
know that the breakdown of your relationship is for a greater purpose.
Understanding some of the basic spiritual laws of the Universe will
help you to
discover that there is a reason you’re going this pain. These laws will
guide
you through the process of healing and bring you back to a place deep
inside
that is filled with wisdom, knowledge, and compassion for the human
experience.
Below are the first three of the Seven Spiritual Laws of Divorce that
are at
the heart of my book, Spiritual Divorce: Divorce as a Catalyst for an
Extraordinary Life. The
Law of
Acceptance The
first and
possibly most important spiritual law is that everything is as it
should be.
Nothing occurs by accident and there are no coincidences. We are always
evolving, whether we are aware of it or not. And our lives are divinely
designed for each one of us to get exactly what we need to support our
own
unique evolutionary process. The
Law of Surrender When
we stop
resisting and surrender to our situation exactly as it is, things begin
to
change. Resistance is the number one culprit in denying us our right to
heal.
We resist out of fear that if we let go, if we surrender, our lives
will go out
of control or we will be faced with circumstances we can't handle. When
we are
willing to look at our situation and admit that we don't know how to
fix it, we
are ready to get the help we need. The
Law of Divine
Guidance God
will do for us
what we cannot do for ourselves. When we get out of our own way and let
go of
our defenses, we become humble. Humility is the doorway through which
the
Divine can walk into our lives. Without humility, we believe we can do
it
ourselves. Without humility, our false sense of pride, or ego,
prohibits us
from seeing the entire situation with clear eyes. Our egos remain in
charge
until we step outside our righteous belief that we are independent and
separate
beings. As long as this myth is intact, we keep the door closed to our
higher
wisdom. These
spiritual
laws, and the four subsequent laws, are a guide and will serve as a
reference
point for your healing process. They are designed to help you break
through
your fears, dissolve your pain, and understand the deeper meaning of
your
situation. When these laws are integrated and practiced they will give
you the
freedom to create the life you have always dreamed of. To
further support
you in healing your heart and moving powerfully into your future, I
would also
invite you to set aside some time for some inner reflection and
journaling.
This will assist you tremendously in using the pain of your separation
or
divorce as a catalyst for the next, greatest expression of yourself: Healing
Action Steps 1.
Make a list of
five difficult experiences you have had. Next to each one, write one
lesson
that you learned as a result of it. How has that lesson helped you in
your
life? 2.
List twenty
favorable things that have come out of your separation from your
partner. As
the following list suggests, the benefits of your breakup may be
significant or
quite superficial. It may be helpful to look to your grievances for
inspiration. If you are unable to find any, ask friends and family to
help you.
Your list might look something like this: -
I don’t have to
share the bathroom.
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