Getting the right type of divorce advice depends on what
type of divorce
advice you want and what you want to use it for. When looking for
advice about
divorce, it is smart to clearly define what you are seeking the advice
for so
you can be sure to look in the right places.
Seems simple enough right?
Yes, but...lots of people who are deciding about divorce and seeking
divorce
advice lump the categories of divorce advice into one, and that's a big
mistake. You should seek divorce advice from different types of places
for the
different types of advice that you need. Certainly there's more types
of
divorce advice categories, but here's a partial list:
Divorce advice type 1: Legal advice for getting a divorce when you are
sure
that you want a divorce, no matter how tough it will be to get that
divorce.
When asking for this type of divorce advice while meeting with an
attorney, you
may be asked if you're certain that you actually do want a divorce…if
you do,
don't waver, stick to your decision. It makes sense to have a good idea
of all
of the parts of your life, family and materials, that could be affected
or
sought after. You want to have your facts, account names, timelines,
etc., in
mind when meeting with the attorney so that your discussion is
maximized.
Divorce advice type 2: Legal advice for getting a divorce when you are
almost
sure that you want a divorce, but want to make sure that the financial
considerations are in order or that health of your children won't
suffer in the
long run. When asking for this type of divorce advice, you may want to
consider
seeking the advice of an attorney or financial planner for the
financial
considerations and a counselor experienced in family matters for the
impact
that a divorce might have on your children. The point is, split the two
concerns up so that you get the chance to speak to 2 different people
who
specialize in each area so that you will get the appropriate divorce
advice.
Divorce advice type 3: Legal advice for getting a divorce in a case
that is
relatively simple and will be a clean break, no financial or other
family
considerations to take into account for the divorce. This is perhaps
the
easiest type of divorce advice to get because it infers that you have
already
made the decision from an emotional standpoint and really don't have
any other
considerations of deep concern. When seeking this type of divorce
advice, you
most likely have limited financial considerations, a prenuptial
agreement, or
the situation itself as amenable to everyone and you just need someone
to do
the paperwork.
Divorce advice type 4: Legal and/or counseling advice regarding whether
or not
divorce is right for you from a psychological, emotional and financial
perspective. When asking for this type of divorce advice, you may want
to
consider seeking the advice of an attorney or financial planner for the
financial
considerations and a counselor experienced in Clinical Psychology and
"personal-life" coaching for the impact that a divorce might have on
you. Again, the point is, split the two concerns up so that you get a
chance to
speak to 2 different people who specialize in each area so that you
will get
the appropriate divorce advice.
Divorce advice type 5: Counseling for emotional support when deciding
whether
or not you really want a divorce or are just unhappy in your marriage.
This
type of divorce advice is crucial to your happiness because when you're
in an
emotional state, it is tough to make lucid and rational decisions. And,
if
you're wrestling with deciding whether or not to get a divorce (purely
from an
emotional perspective), you should do all you can to make a logical
decision
because how you approach this decision and the affects afterwards can
be long
lasting and far reaching. If you're are struggling with finding divorce
advice,
you may want to talk to friends, counselors, even other family members.
But, my divorce advice to you is, do it yourself.
I'm not saying don't talk with friends, counselors, and possibly
family. What I
am suggesting is that you reach the final decision of whether to get a
divorce
on your own, you have to live with it, no one else. The answer is
inside you,
you just have to get it out in a logical manner.
Whatever type of divorce advice you need, be sure that you're directing
your
energies in the right direction. If you don't separate the emotional
aspects
from the legal aspects of divorce advice, you might end up confused and
unable
to get the most out of any meeting you may have with an attorney or
marriage
counselor. At the end of the day, you should control your own destiny
and make
a smart decision based on logic, controlled emotion, and forward
thinking.
Article Source: http://www.articleset.com
About the Author:
Karl Augustine Author, "A Practical
Guide To Deciding Whether Or Not To Get A Divorce".
*A resource recommended by marriage counselors to their clients.
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