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When Does a
Child Custody
A
divorce is
stressful enough, but when child custody is involved it can get ugly
really
quick. Unfortunately, there are times when the underlying reason for
child
custody isn’t about the children at all. It’s just one more way to get
back at
their Ex for all the “horrible things” that they have done. This is the
worst
situation because the only one who ends up getting hurt is the
children. That’s
why I felt compelled to write this article. My wife and I have been
have been
in a “heated” battle for her daughter for over a year now. Her
ex-husband is a
manipulative “know it all” who is purposely limiting my wife’s contact
with her
daughter. My wife lost custody several years ago when she had to leave
the
state they were living in because of the constant harassment and
threats being
made by her Ex. At the time, the judge could not make a decision on
custody and
my wife was not allowed to take her daughter out of the state. It was
not long
after that her Ex’s high price attorney was able to get the judge to
grant him
full custody simply because my wife now lived out-of-state. Needless to
say, my
wife was devastated. She didn’t think it could happen just like that
with no
consideration given to her situation. So in an instant, she went from
having
50:50 custody to seeing her daughter only 6 weeks out of the year. A
couple of years
later, I came into the picture and was able to convince my wife that
she needs
to stop being afraid of her Ex and it was time to fight for her right
to be a
mother to her daughter. That was easier said than done. By that time,
her Ex
had used his influence over his daughter to get her to blame my wife
for
everything that had happened. Soon the phone calls got shorter and
shorter, and
her daughter started saying awful things to my wife…things that just
tore her
up inside. This 5-year girl was “yelling” at her mother for breaking up
the
family, for causing all her daddy’s “money problems”, and for leaving
her
behind to be with her “new husband”. None of which it true, but try
explaining
that to a 5-year old girl over the telephone with her “Daddy” sitting
beside
her and listening to the entire conversation. My wife was an utter
mess, and
even started blaming herself for what was going on. We
finally decided
enough was enough, but we had no idea what to do next. I research
everything.
I’m all over the internet look for tip and strategies, anything that
can give
us an idea on how to deal with a child custody issue. And wouldn’t you
know it;
all I get are law firms that tell you that all you have to do is get
the right
lawyer. So that is what we did. We gathered all the money that we
could, our entire
savings and then some, and then hired a lawyer. A lawyer who called our
situation an “atrocity”, and that he would do everything in his power
to put a
stop to it. And so it began, the child custody battle was in full
swing. But
after the first motion was sent out by our lawyer, we heard nothing.
Days,
weeks went by and no response, and when we tried to get in touch with
our
lawyer we had to set up an appointment where we would get charged $250
an hour
to talk to him over the phone. A year goes by and nothing happens,
except for
the judge telling my wife’s Ex to stop turning her daughter against
her. And
did I mention, we had a nice $16,000 lawyer bill. This
child custody
battle was causing us all kinds of pain (emotionally, mentally, and
monetarily), but we vowed not to quit. In the mean time, her daughter
was angry
at us once again because we were trying to “put her Daddy in jail” and
“He
would die of a broken heart if she was ever to go and live with mommy”.
It was
gut-wrenching to the both of us. And then something happened that gave
us some
hope. Did the lawyer call with some good new? No! Did the judge finally
make a
decision in our favor? No! I came upon a website talking about two
experts
(Doctors of Psychology) in dealing with child custody issues. With over
35
years of experience between them, and numerous expert testimonies, they
looked
they had something that they could teach us. And wouldn’t you believe
their
guide on strategies in dealing with child custody only cost $89. I was
skeptical at first, wondering what they could know that our lawyer
doesn’t. But
what is $89 compared to $16,000, so I took a look. Right from the
beginning, I
noticed things that our lawyer never even mentioned to us. I even
brought up
some points from the book to our lawyer (at $250 an hour), and he acted
like he
had never heard of that before. These weren’t over the top legal
tactics. These
were simple things that none of us had ever though of. We’re still in
the midst
of the custody battle, but things our leaning our way for the first
time ever.
All I can say is that the guide has helped me understand a lot more
about child
custody strategies, and I had only wished that I had found before all
of this
started. If you our in similar situation yourself, or about to fight
for
custody, I urge you to get this guide. It’s a small price to pay in the
long
run, and it even shows you ways to make your lawyer work harder for
you. To
check out what these experts have to say and check out their guide go
to Child Custody
Strategies.
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