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Helping Men
Protect Their Assets in Relationship Breakdown and Divorce It
is a long time
since any man actually believed that this is a man’s world, assuming it
ever
actually was. Increasingly men feel under attack and no-where is this
more true
than in the courts. Read details of the latest divorce settlements, and
you get
the drift. Into
this frame
comes Doctor Ditcher, or “Doctor D” to his clients. His is a subversive
business in today’s world; he swims against the tide of “fairness” and
takes a
totally prejudiced view. He is one sided and one sided only. He works
in the “I
had a wake up
call when my wife and I broke up and she engaged a Rotweiler of a
Lawyer. I got
a letter from them threatening me with an injunction the same day as
she and I
had arranged to go to counselling to try for reconciliation. That was
just the
beginning of the worst two years of my life.” He had been married for
18 years,
children, mortgage, partnership in a top 25 Law firm, and a number of
investment properties in different places. “For the next 6 months I
spent every
night with my Legal team, usually until 2 or 3 in the morning drafting
affidavits and responding to the next risk of commercial castration by
the
constant threat of Injunction. It was awful. Eventually
we
settled down into what I call “normal” litigation; routine hearings,
whining
and name calling. The biggest surprise was how she did all those things
that
professionally I had known “other” women do, but because of the life
we’d lived
together I never believed she would do. I was wrong.” Doctor Ditcher
had been
married for 18 years and had what he thought was a strong family but he
found
his ex-wife a real surprise when they split up. “She started using
access to
the kids as leverage; she visited my blood family and tried to ruin my
reputation with them, she even visited my business Bankers telling them
we were
about to go to court and she would be taking me for a lot of money, not
something that gave them confidence in trusting me with continuance of
Banking
arrangements I had in place. Inside 48 hours I had lost over
£2million in
commercial facilities previously available to me. She did all this was
while I
was still meeting ALL the household expenses and paying the kids
private school
fees and her the same huge amount as when we had been together. It
became clear
to me this was only about one thing, trying to extract continuing
control over
me.” The lesson he learned? “Even women you think you know will go for
your
balls via your wallet if you relationship goes sour.” This
made him think
about the dangers men face in their relationships; “I truly believe
that most
men are straightforward and simple in their approach. They are by
nature
rational beings but this means they are at a disadvantage in legal
show-downs
with an ex-partner. Whether it is insecurity or fear the woman will
nearly
always take the cautious approach as recommended by her lawyers and go
for the
jugular so a man is left floundering, reacting rather than pro-actively
planning for the war that will always follow a break-up. This can be
fatal in
the He
left his
partnership in the city firm and started his unique consultancy trading
as
“Doctor Ditcher”. “I admit it is an obvious play on words, but it
reflects my
approach that men really need to wake up and smell the roses! If a man
engages
me I show him a number of simple strategies to protect himself and his
privacy.
In the battle after break-up it is true that knowledge is key. I show
men how
to protect their privacy and therefore deprive the woman and her
lawyers of
information. For other clients I am retained for up to two years to get
them
through what can be the roughest time of their lives. Sometimes I am
the only person
they can talk to openly. I try to be a man’s one true friend. I give
help for
men, including asset protection secrets and strategies, sometimes
off-shore.” The
most high
profile case he’s advised in? He won’t say. “I treat all my clients
with the same
degree of confidentiality as if I were still a lawyer. Also, it is
important my
involvement remains unknown or it could lead to a woman going back to
court in
a fishing expedition. Knowing I am involved means they know the man is
protecting his ass!” Well, if he won’t give details of actual cases
what is the
most extreme case he’s handled? “I have had a number of men who for a
mixture
of differing reasons – their spouse/partner being one - wanted a new
start
elsewhere and I helped them make their plans and put them into effect.”
The
results? “The people looking for those men do not know where to start,
but
those are extreme cases. Most of my clients are ordinary men, usually
professional or with good jobs or their own business and they just
don’t want to
hand over 50% or more to someone simply because they’ve been having sex
with
them for some years. Marriage isn’t meant to be like prostitution yet
ironically, the courts increasingly treat it as a commercial
relationship where
if you didn’t negotiate the cost up front they say 50% of all you have
sounds
fair enough! Indeed if the court calculates a mans worth favourably to
the wife
and, for example, doesn’t take account of some liabilities because her
lawyers
successfully argue they shouldn’t, he can end up paying her more than
50%! This
happens surprisingly frequently.” If
lawyers are
already involved Doctor Ditcher says it is probably already too late to
do
much, “I can give men divorce advice and tips, but many others give
male
divorce advice as well. Uniquely I can advise them how to hide their
assets and
money BEFORE a divorce happens as well as helping them through the
whole
divorce and relationship breakdown. This is a field where planning and
preparation are vital. I have clients who know things are not good in
their
relationship, but working with me in the background they stay with
their women
until their affairs are prepared for D Day – “Ditch Her Day” as I call
it!” As
a retired lawyer he can still advise in the background and help a man
deal with
his own legal team if lawyers are involved. “No one understands a fox
like a
fox!” He says. “What most clients don’t realise at the time is the
legal
process is a game of chess. If you don’t move your men the right way
they won’t
be as strong in the game as they could be. To most lawyers you are just
another
case. If they can dispose of your case and get their fees for less
effort, then
have no doubt, they will! Sometimes you need to play your own legal
team. You
are the only person truly on your side” Well, you and Doctor Ditcher
that is!
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